Sometimes it feels impossible to just focus on yourself with the influence of others all around us. Well, I’ve been viewing this as a major test— keeping my tunnel vision and keeping my positivity no matter who or what is around me trying to change it. Today I’m looking at the reasons why this is happening to us, and what lessons we can extract from it.
idenitfying the lesson
Obviously we don’t live in a bubble or on a deserted island (though maybe we’d like to!). Most of us are surrounded by people all day long, and these people are put in our lives to test us just as we are put in their lives to test them. They push our buttons and push us to grow, but as long as we keep this perspective, we can identify the lesson, and push ourselves through it, never to be faced again. However, if we don’t pay attention to the lesson, and succumb to the negativity and influence on us, the lesson will persist and most likely intensify.
A big lesson for me right now, and I imagine others as well, is maintaining this “tunnel vision.” In my ideal tunnel vision — I go so far as to envision a horse with blinders on — I am just living my life, keeping my inner peace, and remaining completely unfazed by the thoughts and actions of others. Easier said than done for sure, but this is the vision I’m holding in my mind of where I want to stay. And that is the true definition of finding your center/ inner peace — nobody can take it from you.
In my ideal tunnel vision — I go so far as to envision a horse with blinders on — I am just living my life, keeping my inner peace, and remaining completely unfazed by the thoughts and actions of others.
Everything is a reflection of ourselves and our issues
Whenever I’m faced with a difficult person or situation, I try to stop myself right there and think “why is this happening to me? And why is it getting under my skin so badly?” Expanding on the concept of everything being a lesson for us to overcome, when something really offends you, it’s mostly because it touched a nerve, or sensitive spot already within you. Again, pushing you to grow and overcome this soft spot.
When you view things from this lens, we are all teachers to one another. That person said that hurtful thing to me, to bring out this insecurity so I can move past it and let it go. It’s no one’s fault, we don’t have to start fights or get worked up, just recognize what’s happening and think about it for a minute.
That’s not to say you have to be best friends with someone who said hurtful things, but be mindful of the fact that every single thing that happens to you is a reflection of your issues, insecurities, and the energy you are putting out. A true warrior looks at tough situations and plows through them by extracting the lesson, sitting with it, and releasing it.
Be mindful of the fact that every single thing that happens to you is a reflection of your issues, insecurities, and the energy you are putting out.
Keeping your peace
My mom always told me “others’ opinions of you is none of your business” and boy, do those words resonate. Applicable to virtually any social scenario in our lives, this idea reminds us that you don’t have to even be touched by another’s words or feelings towards you— that’s their business. And as soon as you allow those opinions to seep in, you are giving up your energy and letting someone else alter your emotional/mental state. Even when I think in these terms just now as I write, I feel insulted at the very suggestion that I would allow someone else to affect my peace.
Has anyone else been experiencing similar situations? What do you do to get through it? ❤️
These photos were taken on a recent trip I took to the beautiful Starved Rock State Park in central Illinois last week.