Soul Food #12 : Age

Soul Food #12 : Age

Buongiorno 🙂

This topic is something that affects all of us, and it’s been a prominent factor in my life.  I thought discussing age and maturity on a physical level vs. spiritual level would be a cool topic to open up. 🙂

Many of us hear someone’s age and jump to some kind of conclusion regarding that person’s maturity and/or possibly even their intelligence.  However, chronological age can actually be very meaningless in determining these qualities. 

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I have never felt my age.  At the risk of sounding “full of myself,” I really have always felt to be older than my years, and I know that means something.  I try to refrain from telling others my age wherever possible because it’s irrelevant in understanding who I am.  I think there are many others who can identify with this feeling as well.  I always felt out of place in school, particularly in college, and I realize that their is an age component to that feeling.

 

 

Something that I’ve realized as a result of my experiences with age is that the age of the soul is a completely independent concept from chronological age.  A child can be an old soul, and a 70 year old can be a young soul.

The frustrating component to this situation is being a young person and feeling judged or even looked down on in some way due to your chronological age.  I still can get really upset when someone older than me in years treats me like a child or doesn’t acknowledge what I have to offer mentally, emotionally, or spiritually.  Everyone has had a different path (I believe that this path also extends to past lifetimes as well) and there is no way to know what someone truly knows just by their chronological age.

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The challenge found in that frustration is a big lesson in knowing your truth and being strong and confident in yourself and in what you know to be true despite what others believe or try to impose on you.  This is a toughy.

 

 

 

In school with professors, in the work environment with bosses, or in your own family, there may always be someone who wants to assert superiority over your maturity and wealth of experiences and knowledge.  I’ve really worked hard (and continue to work hard) at fostering the strength of knowing who I am and not letting anyone else’s opinion even touch me. 

That’s not to say that there aren’t things to learn from older people about life.  Of course I have people that I go to for life advice, but I choose those people based on their spiritual “age” and awareness.

But people who try to undermine what you know and your truth on the basis of age, are just young and unaware themselves.  It’s a pretty obvious sign of a young soul to treat someone else as if they know less.  That is insecurity, ego, and lack of self awareness.  And if we can just determine those behaviors as such, they shouldn’t be able to touch us.  Easier said than done.

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Be a full bottle! Secure in who you are! 🙂

 

But people who try to undermine what you know and your truth on the basis of age, are just young and unaware themselves.  It’s a pretty obvious sign of a young soul to treat someone else as if they know less.  That is insecurity, ego, and lack of self awareness.  And if we can just determine those behaviors as such, they shouldn’t be able to touch us.  Easier said than done.

 

 

I’ve learned that age truly means nothing.  In both friendships and romantic relationships.  I have a friend that I completely identify with who is 20, and my closest friends are over 20 years older than me. It’s just another thought to consider before judging or classifying someone on the basis of their age.

If we can look past that and instead try to look into someone’s “true” age, we can find connections with people that we may not have otherwise given a fair chance.  And if you feel like someone is trying to put you down or place you into a certain category due to your age, view it as a challenge for yourself.  Further develop your faith in yourself and your understanding of who you are until you are no longer affected by it.


I hope that this made sense to you.  It’s something that I’ve spent a lot of time thinking about, and I tried to express it as clearly as possible.  I’d love to know your feedback. <3

A presto,

Amanda 🙂

33 Comments

  1. February 20, 2017 / 10:22 am

    Very inspirational, Amanda. I’ve been having a difficult time accepting the fact that I am about to turn a year older next month, only to realize that age is simply just a number after all. From this time on, I will allow myself to be a child forever.

    Thank you for the lovely insight! 💕

    https://wandersummer.wordpress.com

    • February 20, 2017 / 6:30 pm

      Thank you so much, I’m so happy to hear that you got something out of this post. Birthdays can definitely become scary but keeping that knowing that it’s just a number is a game changer. 🙂

  2. February 20, 2017 / 11:01 am

    This post is amazing. Helps me get to terms with the fact, I will be a year older in less than 2 months. Your post has let it sink that, age means nothings.
    💕

    • February 20, 2017 / 6:31 pm

      Thank you so much! <3 Yes, it totally shifts any worry or panic about aging to keep that in mind.

  3. February 20, 2017 / 11:10 am

    I 100% agree with this. Age is not a dependant factor on the maturity or spiritually well being.

  4. February 20, 2017 / 11:57 am

    Thank You, This is very insightful and courageous. I couple thing arose in me as I was reading. The first being our being where we are on our path, learning lessons we haven’t over many lifetimes and the idea of emotional maturity. I like what Anthony de Mello says of having the objective of being unaffected by praise or blame

    • February 20, 2017 / 6:33 pm

      I just heard that information recently, actually. Very cool. Yes you can’t know anyone’s past life history, so age as we most often define it is just irrelevant.

  5. February 20, 2017 / 3:26 pm

    Great insights! I am someone who looks a lot younger than I actually am, and I am often treated like I am younger. For the most part I don’t let it bother me, because, as you said, physical age doesn’t equal the age of the soul, and if someone is going to treat me differently based on how old they assume I am, then that’s their loss. I don’t know if I’m an old soul or a young soul though. Maybe I am a goofy old soul. 😃

    • February 20, 2017 / 6:33 pm

      haahha love that! Well whether you know or not, you know who you are and won’t let anyone else’s opinions touch you! :)<3

  6. February 20, 2017 / 8:23 pm

    I 100% agree with this sentiment! Like you, I’ve always been an old soul, but my husband is 10 years older and is the teenager in our house. He keeps me young and I level him out, my friendships span decades in either direction and for that I’m grateful. Age is but a number, don’t let anyone take away from your maturity and experience based on the number of times you’ve cycled around the sun!! Charlie xx

  7. February 20, 2017 / 8:42 pm

    This was just what I needed to read! My birthday was two days ago & this was an age that I struggled with becoming. Thanks for the insight! 🖤

    • February 22, 2017 / 3:59 pm

      Aw yay! I’m so glad you got something positive out of it! 🙂

  8. February 21, 2017 / 1:00 am

    Amanda, I agree with your thoughts fully. Maturity is something that comes with constant learning and experiences and with age number. Ás long as I am enjoying my work with my family and loved ones, I will not be bothered of how old am I. Other than older people I have learned many things from my kids too like don’t take a no for an answer. Very well expressed blog.

    • February 22, 2017 / 4:00 pm

      Yes! Love that, learning from children is so so true. Thank you for the lovely words. <3

  9. February 21, 2017 / 1:58 am

    So true dear… just loved your post…very nice thought….very beautifully expressed…

  10. February 22, 2017 / 6:16 am

    Amanda, this post means so much to me.
    I recently made a connection with someone who is 12 years younger than me which I found very uncomfortable to begin with. But the more I think about it, the more I feel that we are pretty much on the same wavelength in terms of our approach to life. Yes, I am older and have more experiences under my belt but he conducts himself with a worldly-wisdom far beyond his years. Meeting him has really opened my eyes that you shouldn’t judge anyone by their age. Thanks for writing this.
    Hx

    • February 22, 2017 / 4:07 pm

      That’s so awesome! I’ve actually had a similar situation before as well with a large age difference, and it really opened my eyes to how age can be inconsequential. I never judge couples who have a big age gap because a connection is a connection, and that’s all that matters in any relationship. 🙂

  11. February 23, 2017 / 2:45 pm

    I just wanted to say that you have such a beautiful soul ❤ and I admire what you had written. Stay bless, you beauty! Much love, jessiewuvs 💁🏻💕

    • February 24, 2017 / 10:14 am

      That is so sweet, you just made my day. 🙂 Thank you lovely! <3

  12. February 24, 2017 / 10:53 am

    Thanx for sharing. I like your perspective on this topic!

  13. February 24, 2017 / 7:06 pm

    Great post and excellent point! I’ve always felt like a bit of a younger soul… a late bloomer perhaps.

  14. March 20, 2017 / 1:39 am

    Love this! I totally think the same…. I have friends that are 9 and friends that are 89…. it doesn’t matter. Age is a feeling, that’s why I do not like to disclose my age because I don’t want people thinking she is too old, or is that much older than me. I get along with pretty much everyone. I do not judge. I listen. I think that everyone is unique and special, and has something to give and share!! Life is rich, we need to allow people to be who they are and celebrate that!!!

    • The Bellezza Corner
      April 4, 2017 / 10:13 pm

      Thank you!! <3

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