Hello everyone! <3
I figured this is a topic that just about everyone can relate to, so what better for a mid-week post than suggestions for how to brighten your mood when you’re feeling low?
Even when you try to live moment to moment, you still sometimes need to pull yourself out of a sad or difficult one from time to time. It doesn’t hurt to have a little toolbox of tricks to refer to to get yourself back on the right track and feeling positive again. After all, you can’t draw in great things if you, yourself aren’t emitting positivity. 🙂
These are the tricks that work for me, and I think they could work for you too 😉
For me, there is a strong component of mental reasoning that needs to take place to come out of a bad mood. Distractions are great, but they are not a long term fix, and definitely don’t address the root issue. So my 5 tips include a mix of mental, emotional, and physical methods of bringing yourself back to a happy state of mind.
The importance of healthy, deep breathing cannot be overstated. It may sound super cliche to say “just take a deep breath”, but when you really understand what’s happening biologically inside when your body receives full, fresh oxygen, you’ll never breathe the same again.
I wrote an entire post about the benefits of breathing based on an amazing little book I read by Pam Grout (highly recommended). For more on the nitty-gritty of all things breathing- read my full post from the link above 😉
But for now, as far as mood-lifting benefits of breathing go, taking some big deep breaths and filling your lungs with fresh oxygen can:
-instantly reduce stress– breathing instantly tells your body “it’s ok” and to relax. When you are anxious, sad, or angry, you’re body is already reacting and probably getting all worked up, so first things first, “it’s ok.”
-increase self-esteem– better breathing pumps more endorphins into your system- lifting you up right away.
-increase mental clarity– “The brain is oxygen’s best customer.” In her book, Grout points out that the brain alone consumes 20% of the body’s oxygen. Full breathing helps with concentration and problem solving. And sometimes extra problem solving energy is needed to get out of a bad mood.
2. Bring yourself back to the present
More often than not, the reason why we feel upset in the present moment is because we are worrying about something that has already happened, or something that has yet to happen. Worrying/being upset about either of these things is complete wasted energy, as neither of them are now, and we are always striving to be in the now. A simple conscious reminder to yourself to come back to this moment can be enough to lift yourself out of a bad mood.
If the thing that’s bothering you is something happening right this second, rather than the past or future, you can take solace in the fact that it will pass too, just like any other moment. And soon you will be in your next moment, which is yours to do with what you wish. 🙂
Centering yourself right now in this present second will bring instant peace. Once you get into the practice of bringing yourself back to the moment when you feel you have slipped away (one great way to do this is by focusing on your breath for several deep breaths), you will start to feel your day-to-day “mood”, or entire demeanor, change. You will be calmer, happier, more relaxed, and more able to extract the beauty from life, not just the challenges.
3. Say some affirmations
Maybe the easiest and certainly one of the most effective of all of these tools: saying some affirmations to start drawing in what you want. For a more detailed explanation of affirmations and why they work, see my previous post on this topic.
An affirmation is a short, powerful statement, written as a declaration of something that is already true. For example, “I am a success in everything I do” or “I feel happy and healthy.” You can say them out loud, in your head, or write them down. Just get those positive statements out there, so the universe can bring them to you!
Note—>The important thing about making affirmations is to phrase them as something that you already have obtained or is already true. It is less effective to say “I want more money in my life” and more effective to say “I am making so much money.” The attitude of already having what you desire, increases the statement’s power.
Affirmations can instantly start to turn things around. When I’m really feeling in a difficult space, I just shoot them out one after the other for everything and anything I want. “I am feeling centered and positive.” “I am in a great place at work/financially/in my relationship.” Whatever it may be- there are no limitations on what or how much you can ask for. It costs nothing and the universe is always listening- whether you are spewing negative thoughts or positive ones.
4. Do something physical, even just a walk
You don’t have to take an extreme bootcamp class to reap the mood-changing benefits of working out. (Though, if that’s your thing, power to you! 🙂 ) A simple walk outside or a couple yoga stretches at home or in the park, will get some fresh oxygen in your body, and get some positive energy flowing again.
Working out can also be a nice distraction to immediately get your mind off something stressful, while also maybe blowing off some stream, but it definitely feels great to get moving and breathing when you’re feeling down. You almost have no choice but to perk up.
5. Treat yourself to something lovely
Let’s not underestimate the power of a good sweet or a new pair of shoes. (It’s called retail therapy for a reason 😉 ). I don’t mean self-soothe via crying hysterically and demolishing a carton of ice cream. I do, however, think it’s really nice to give yourself something nice- whatever that means to you. Especially if you’ve gone through some of the “work” above to pass through your difficult moment, you deserve something nice. 🙂
I hope that this post was helpful to you guys, please let me know what you think in the comments below. A presto <3