Soul Food #6: A Bad Day Vs. A Bad Moment

Soul Food #6: A Bad Day Vs. A Bad Moment

Buongiorno and happy Monday everyone! 🙂

How often do you say to yourself or a friend, “I am having such a bad day”?

Well, what if I told you that you’re not having a bad day at all, just a bad moment? And that that moment will pass too, just like any other.

I realized something several months ago that I wanted to share in a soul food post that really helps me navigate through more difficult/ strenuous situations while staying grounded emotionally.  It goes hand in hand with the concept of living in the moment, and provides a new perspective on how to continue to live in the moment, even when faced with a challenging situation.

It’s choosing to view something difficult as a “bad moment” rather than a “bad day”.

I do not believe in bad days. And you don’t have to either. 🙂

I’ve had a lot of spiritual breakthroughs since my mom passed and one of them is how I view a “bad day”. I choose not to believe in them at all. I had a friend who mentioned to me, “you’re going to have bad days and good days with this” referring to my dealing with my mother.  In addition to not accepting someone else’s experience as my own, this comment got me thinking about what a bad day really is.

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A bad day is something that you label. You decide to have it. And you decide to make a challenging thought/circumstance/situation get drawn out for an entire day and affect your mood and happiness.  I don’t know about you, but that’s not something I’m interested in doing to myself.

If we are truly living moment to moment, and we let all emotions pass through us-good and bad- there is no reason to ever have a bad day, just a bad, fleeting moment.  I certainly have very difficult moments, we all do! There are plenty of challenging situations in this life. But it’s up to us to not let those moments turn into hours or days- that is in our control. I choose to feel and honor those emotions for a few minutes (sometimes even a little longer) and then let them pass by as I move into my next moment.

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It’s up to us to not let those moments turn into hours or days-that is in our control.

As we know, our thoughts determine our reality, and if we declare a day to be a “bad day” from 10:00 am- you can be sure that the rest of your day will respond to its new label you’ve placed on it.

It’s your job to turn that around.  Recognize that the moment you’re in really sucks- vent to a friend, cry, get angry, get it off your body if you need to- but then take a few breaths and recenter yourself. Move on to the next moment because hanging on will only perpetuate more of the same.  il_570xN.564451377_i1u6As the old adage says, “this too shall pass.” I remind myself of this in the bad moments. Whether you’re in a tough moment or a happy moment, this too shall pass. So you be the one to determine when it passes, and let it go sooner rather than later to spare yourself some extra pain. When you are truly in this moment, right now, it’s almost always ok.

It’s a simple change in perspective that can be a huge shift in your positivity and the quality of your days.

Thank you guys for reading <3

Love,

Amanda

 

26 Comments

  1. August 15, 2016 / 1:40 pm

    This is just exquisite! I am glad I read it. 🙂

  2. August 16, 2016 / 10:30 am

    This is so true. We could avoid so much stress if we just shifted our perspective into realizing that our days are just little moments put together and one little moment shouldn’t ruin your whole day! Thank you so much for writing this! ❤️❤️

    • August 16, 2016 / 10:44 am

      Aw thank you 🙂 I’m so happy to hear that you got something out of it. <3

  3. August 16, 2016 / 3:20 pm

    Was I motivated? Absolutely! Thanks so much.. I really needed this

  4. August 18, 2016 / 1:21 pm

    idk why that leaf picture is so cute to me. lovely post.

  5. August 18, 2016 / 2:36 pm

    Yes life is already short. Make the brighter days longer.

  6. August 24, 2016 / 10:44 am

    I absolutely love your perspective of not having bad days, only bad moments. I never thought about it this way but it will now be at the forefront of my mind. Thank you for sharing!

    • August 24, 2016 / 10:53 am

      I’m so happy to hear that you got something out of it 🙂 Thank you for the support! <3

      • August 24, 2016 / 11:01 am

        No problem!!! I look forward to your future post!

  7. August 25, 2016 / 11:29 am

    You got me! I thought you may have some actual soul food dishes here…Lol! But this was very good advise which I agree with. Thank you…

    • August 25, 2016 / 11:49 am

      hahah I didn’t mean to fool you! That didn’t even occur to me actually haha I’m glad you enjoyed the read! <3

  8. November 9, 2016 / 2:57 pm

    Hi. I am so glad that I was able to read your article. I had days like that when my father passed away. I learned too that it is a choice and a bad day does not have to be. I have bad moments, but I find a quiet place and tell myself that this will pass. Thank you for inspiring me to continue on my path of healing. 🙂

    • November 9, 2016 / 9:43 pm

      Thank you so much, I’m so happy to hear that you got something out of my post. I really believe that it’s up to us to choose our every day and every moment. 🙂 <3

      • November 10, 2016 / 10:10 am

        I am looking forward to reading more! Have a lovely lovely day 😀

  9. December 24, 2016 / 12:44 pm

    This is revolutionary. We have so much power in what we say and a lot of times its not realized which is really tragic. Great read😊

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